Secrets for being married 42 years?
There's really only one:
When we were dating, we memorized I Corinthians 13. The love chapter. That was one of the smartest things we ever did.
The still small voice of the Spirit often reminds to be patient or kind or to keep no record of wrongs.
So for 42 years these two sinners saved by grace have been walking hand in hand with Jesus as our guide.
(Roses don't hurt either.)