Mom with her first great grandchild. She now has 9. In 9 years!
"If you can't say anything nice......" I paused.
"Don't say anything at all!" chorused the 80 and 90 year old ladies I was leading in Bible study at our local assisted living place.
This was a common saying among those of 'the greatest generation'.
It seems in today's society, this has been forgotten. I'm appalled at the coarse language I hear in public today. But that is a rant for another day.
Mom continually drove home the point that we should be careful about our speech.
"Oh, be careful little mouth what you say,
Oh be careful little mouth what you say,
For the Father up above is looking down in love,
So be careful little mouth what you say."
So, we were careful what we said. I think it was easier during the kinder, gentler time of the 50's. We were not allowed to say 'dumb' , 'stupid' , 'shut up' . (I cringe even typing these words! Sorry, Mom!) Calling someone silly was also frowned upon.
We lived near Mom and Dad from 2008-2013. Even tho Alzheimer's had begun to cloud her mind, not only did Mom refrain from saying unkind things, she heaped lavish praise on folks. Even strangers.
"Oh, what a beautiful baby you have!"
"I love your scarf!"
"Thank you for doing that!"
Kind words flowed from her mouth. She especially heaped praise on the pianist at church.
Mom was simply and beautifully modeling Biblical behavior.
" Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone."
"When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who is wise holds his tongue. "
"Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent and discerning if he holds his tongue."
"A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver."
Mom, thank you for teaching us to be careful and full of care in our speech.